I’m proposing a new flag: Multisexual
I’ve decided to just combine the main multi flags into one super-flag. The flags I’m using are:
- Bisexual flag: Dark Pink, Dark Purple, Dark Blue. According to the creator, the colors stand for homosexual (pink), heterosexual (blue), and their intersection, bisexual (purple)
- Pansexual flag: Bright Pink, Bright Yellow, Bright Blue. Pink for female genders, yellow for genders not defined on the binary, blue for male genders.
- Polysexual flag: Bright Pink, Sea Green, Bright Blue. Same as above, with green instead of yellow.
The order I put them in preserves the order of the other flags. We have pan/poly blue, bi pink, poly green, bi purple, pan yellow, pan/poly pink, and bi blue.
The two colors on the top and bottom represent the well-known and understood parts of our community: relationships with people of same and opposite genders, attractions to people of binary(esque) genders. The middle represents the fluidity of the multi community, the way that we play inside and outside of those boundaries, and the way these perceptions intersect into our daily lives.
Personal reasons for this:
Did I ever tell you guys that polysexual fits me better than pansexual?
Because just like splitting things into “my gender/not my gender” (bisexual) makes me uncomfortable, saying that “I’m attracted to some people of all genders” feels wrong.
Both for the same reasons, too: I think there are very few people that experience their gender the same way. So, saying “my gender/not my gender” is like saying “I could be attracted to these four people, and also the other 7 billion people on the planet”, which seems silly. It’s like saying “I like these four particular grapes, and also I like all fruit.” But pansexual feels like “out of the nearly infinite gender possibilities, I am attracted to at least some people from all of them,” which leads to “you’re the only person with your gender? Great, I like you,” which no.
Polysexual, however, implies that “out of the nearly infinite gender possibilities, I am attracted to some people from an undetermined number of them” to me. Which feels nice.
I use pan instead of poly solely because “poly” almost always implies polyamorous, which it should, and I’m generally not talking about my relationship preferences.
Besides, all of the bi/poly/pan stuff is just various shades of multisexual. They all basically say “I like people from more than one gender,” and we face the same problems in the end: erasure and the difficulty of staying out as multi, being disregarded or attacked in both the LG and straight communities, oversexualization, etc.